Desire Smuggling and consent
Being able to clearly ask for what we want is essential to consent. When we can’t ask for what we want, we do something called “desire...
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What does the Freeze Response Have to do with Consent?
What is the Freeze Response and what does it have to do with consent? Most of us have heard of the autonomic Fight and Flight responses...
Talking to your kids about consent - 5 tips
There are so many things to say about talking to your kids about consent. Whether they’re younger or older, your kids need to be learning...
Consent and the Holidays: 5 Ways to Practice
The holidays are a great time to practice your consent skills and model what you’ve learned! We see friends and relatives that we haven’t...
Should they even be asking?
Consent between people becomes much more complicated when they have significantly differing positions of power in the world. In some...
Is Consent Always An enthusiastic yes?
The latest consent motto is “Anything but an enthusiastic Yes is a No!” That has led to some confusion, because often we consent to...
Learning to Hear “No.”
Most of us have a hard time hearing “No”. It often feels like rejection, or even as an indictment of the very core of who we are. We are...
What We Do When We Want to Say “No”
Many of us have a hard time saying “No”. And we have a lot of strategies that we employ when we are put in the position of wanting or...
What Does "Maybe" Really Mean?
I used to say "Maybe" when I really meant "No". So one thing that maybe can mean is, “I want to say no, but I’m scared.” Sometimes we...